My Axel is gone!!! I cant breath......

[wishforabird]

"know, I know..I need to get over it.....Damnit!!!!!...

It's my PMS week too   ....

oh...I hurt Y'all......."

Patti- you do not need to "get over it". you just had a loss in your family, that takes time... anyone who says it is "just a pet" is ignorant. either they are insensitive or have never loved an animal.  you will get through this, (through not "over") it will take time...how much time is between you and your heart.  there is NO timetable for grief...allow yourself yours. as for the PMS, it make make this feel a teensy bit worse, but I guarantee it would hurt like hell if it was your PMS week or not.. you do not have to make excuses for your pain.  Pain is pain, whether it is from your bird or for your mom.  and it is real.

[Debz]

I knew this morning was going to be hard. You know.. they are small little things but they borrow thier way into your heart. I lost my brother his wife (who was one of my closest friends) and grandmother all in the same day..actually grams a day later..and ..ugghhh.. pain...horrific time in my families life.
Some years later... I lost my familiar, Pywakitt the cat.. I mean feline. And the pain was not any less just cause she was "just" a small kitty. Without looking at a calendar it must be at least 8 years since her death and I still can't think look at her picture without crying. She was an extension of me. As was my brother.
It is my belief that loss is loss regardless of who dies. 
"I know, I know..I need to get over it.....Damnit!!!!!...    "
Patti, from what I've experienced, you never "get over it", eventually you learn to live with it. But for now, it's ok, cry and not be over it.
You know, A bit ago, when E's dad died, he posted the event and it was so... ...accepting. He thanked us for the condolences and siad" Death was a part of life and very natural"  And Yes, we all know this, and whenever someone dies in my life, I try very hard to apply that rule, but it just never works out. Instead, I hurt, cry, think how unfair it all is...and wish that I could just turn it all off  and remember that it's the circle of life.  sorry about the rambling...point is,
(((hug))) you're not alone, Patti. Thinking of you.

[patti3birds]

oH...Thank You So very much and I do hold your condolences close- Because we all know, that an empty case feels like Murder...

But Im a tiny better for knowing that I have you guys.

Everyone around me has been real sweet. No Wishy- It was I that have been giving myself a hard time for not "snapping out of it"

I so know that I will never get over him, but the gut feeling of wanting to throw up....feels a little smoother today. Ive laughed about him and cried....But at least I can giggle today...WAy more than yesterday.

And Like I said, I got your Ornie Debz, Very beautiful!!..gave me a grin

and Wishy, Your Calendar will keep that warm spot in my heart glowing!!

He is over the Rainbow bridge and waiting for me there!!..Thank You TIM

[Ditty]

Yep as Wishy stated, it takes time.  No you don't need to get over it.  Axel was a family member and that takes time.  It will take a long time before the "little" things catch ya off guard.

Some take longer than others and sometimes it depends on the circumstances.

I remember when my dad died, it was unexpected and sooo many people got MAD, like really MAD at me.  I was so accepting of it.  I think basically because I have seen people suffer for weeks and weeks, mos and mos.  He did not, he went doing what he loved to do, gardening.  Quick and his worst fear was to end up like his mom with alzheimers, that did not happen.  I think it gave me a sense of peace.  Was it hard, of course it was!  But I held it in and was able to because of this sense of peace. 

Point being is that every one of us is different when it comes to death of a loved one and the circumstances make it different for each time also.  Don't let others bully you around and think that you SHOULD be feeling something different.  It will take as long as it takes for YOU...period.

[sophiemae]

Like Ditty said take your time, there is no course or path to grief. We all do it in our own way and own time. Let yourself feel, scream out loud if you need too, whatever helps process the pain. It wont always be like this, it takes time but it will get easier and the happy memories will start to come more forward in your mind than the sad. You gave Axel a wonderful life, smile at that and know he will always be there with you, the love will never part from you.

[patti3birds]

Like Ditty said take your time, there is no course or path to grief. We all do it in our own way and own time. Let yourself feel, scream out loud if you need too, whatever helps process the pain. It wont always be like this, it takes time but it will get easier and the happy memories will start to come more forward in your mind than the sad. You gave Axel a wonderful life, smile at that and know he will always be there with you, the love will never part from you.

 

[zimbasmom]

How are you doing today? I just wanted to let you know I was thinking about you 

[patti3birds]

I just wanted to let you guys know that I feel a better, Thank to the kinds words from all of you and the support from my friends and Family.

Thank You

[Debz]

we're still here. thinking of you. 

[plantsandbirds]

All such good advice from some wise folks!

I hope your heart heals soon.  Remembering the love and the great times really, really helps.  Time is a great healer and the love will remain.

[BuffaloParrot]

Amen to that P&B