Garthy-kins ashes

[Debz]

Xman a few days ago, picked up Garth's ashes. Included with the ashes is a big ol paw print and a lock of his fur.     dang it! I cant stop bawling. Eventually, I hope to just run out of water.  Is it crazy to want to put him (box o ashes) on the sofa ? (his favorite spot)  Have any of you thought to be buried with your critters ashes? ( morbid I know)...I'm so lost...

[NH Bird Mom]

   I understand.  And it is not morbid.  He was part of the family.  You don't over something like that in a day or two.  Or even a month or two.  Take it one day at at time and you will be able to think of him with a smile instead of tears.  He had a wonderful life with you and knew he was loved. 

[BPMar]

Not a good subject for me at the moment since Zeus just went to the ER again~
I would do whatever you felt right in your heart.  His ashes could be contained in a pillow to go on the sofa.
You are not morbid D had just said he wanted some of Zeus with him, I feel the same way.  My grandpa's ashes are spread all over the world and in a little charm.  Whatever you hold dear is what is right.  I think I may have to one day wear Zeus around my neck since he was/is attached to my ankle.
I can really sympathize with you esp at this moment with Z in the hospt.
I like the idea you have! :pray:

[Mi Amore]

i dont think its morbid at all. i will have hexi burried with me or at the foot of my grave. you can also have his hair turned into a double helix charm they are kind of neat. i would think if you want to put his ash box on the couch then so be it. i also agree with nh bird mom. healing comes over time not right away,so please take your time grieving.

[Sondra]

My step mother had a necklace made for each of the girls from some of my dads ashes and a charm holding ashes for each of the boys. Debz, go to a funeral home and ask about a necklace, they are beautiful and colourful, mine is black with blues, purple, green, and pinkish red in it. It's a way to keep Garth close to your heart. The rest of Dad is on the mantle next to his fav chair.

[plantsandbirds]

Not morbid at all!  In fact, the funeral director that I made arrangements with has instructions to disinterr (spelling) my beloved Eddie, who is buried - not cremated, and to place him with me.  Funeral director says he does this all the time.

And...er... yes... I've bought a plot and have arrangements made even though I'm 48.  You never know and it's up to me to settle this stuff so no one else has to worry about it.

[wishforabird]

you put them wherever you deem fit, whatever helps you through this.  I have seen boxes or urns [of ashes] on dressers, mantels, bed side tables, etc. etc. it is not morbid to put him on the couch, like on the back of the couch against the wall? you can put him here or there, you can put him anywhere. 

maybe this will help?
My buffalonian neighbor lost the love of her life in Dec 2008 to cancer.  he was placed in a wooden box urn the size of a double toaster, with a brass plaque on the outside with his name and years of life. she has it on his side of the bed, on the bedside table with a little model of a prop biplane (snoopy plane) on top of it as he flew those in WW2, and was the ONE thing he loved to do above all else.. he said it was the closest thing you can come to flying w/o wings. (he has them now, he was a pure soul).. and a nice plant in front and to the right.  it brings her comfort to know he is right there.. it is not the final place for it though.. their wishes are when she dies, the urn will be opened and their ashes "mingled" (her words) then it will be buried in a plot. Her dog is now dying of liver cancer, I take care of this dog with her so I am attached too. she is their daughter together as they were not able to have any human children of their own.. she is going to have her creamated and put in an urn as well.  She asked me to please make sure the pup's urn is buried with them when the time comes, I was honored.  this way they will all be together.

my pup's ashes I had placed in a plastic urn, then I put that in a really elaborate sewing box that is all wooden with the cloth, do you know what I mean? it looked like a casket in a way so it was fitting. then I burind the whole thing.  I chose plastic and cremation because this way when I move I can exhume the works and take him with me, I will never leave him behind.

the smell of the urn when it first came haunts me, that is something I had never experienced.  it was like a cold fireplace.

i think your heart will know what to do.
I am so sorry you have to go through this.

[Ditty]

Nope I don't think it is morbid at all.  Why not???

I love the thought of the necklace or charm thing, you can have a little bit of him with you all the time.  And the ashes on the couch, I say wherever YOU want them to be they shall be.

   Unfortunately you won't run out of water...well unless you dehydrate yourself which is not reccommended  .  But know that I love ya and would help you through this if I could.   

[Jadesmom]

Whatever you need to do is right. I want Toddy's ashes buried with me.

[steptoe91(tozie)]

i dont think its wrong or morbid. there's nothing at all wrong with keeping the ashes with you if that's what you want. as i type, Lee's ashes are in the original cardboard box that came from the funeral home under my tv. my sis has her dog's ashes in her bedroom. i've considered what i'll do when rocko goes, and i plan to have him creamated and his ashes will sit under the tv with Lee. i have even considered what i'd do if i lost one of my angels. i dont know, i've actually played with the idea of having them stuffed so i can keep them near... does that seem morbid or weird?

[BuffaloParrot]

Not morbid at all (except maybe on the stuffed idea ).  The other day after visiting my Gram's grave Mar told me I need to write things down for when my time comes (thought I told her?).  Me personally could care less what happens to my body (except for being laid out on display).  I told her.. cremate me, put me in a coffee can (if it saves $), or throw me back to nature, I don't care cause I will god willing be somewhere better.  I then said to put me with Zeus's ashes so you don't have two earns.  After, I kind of liked the idea of being with Zeus's ashes  

[Alessawe]

Nice..one...very much different thought...try greener way of cremation.....

[BilboMisty]

Not morbid at all. I wish I would have had Misty cremated, so I could take her with me, but it was so expensive...But where she is buried was her favorite hang out spot outside. I felt bad when I left Bailey leaving her body behind, but I know in Spirit, she is still with me.

Like what everyone else said, Do what YOU think is best, not what you think other people think is best. If you want him on the couch? Then that should be where he goes. I like the idea (Mar?) of putting his ashes in a pillow on the couch...that way, you can still cuddle with him, lay on him etc. I am sorry you are going through this Debz.